Respect everyone
Along with etiquette signs hung about the venue, security guards and staff are also strategically placed to oversee festivities at fetish parties. Be polite, be courteous and always ask permission. Also, sense of humour is equally important.
Take everything in
As a novice, the first hour can be a little bit of an eye-opener at a fetish party. Watching people engage in varying degrees of sexual expression — we’re talking everything from toe sucking to full on ass thwacking — did initially seem well, quite weird. However, allowing yourself time to adjust and settle into these feelings can soon bringa euphoric rush of empowerment. There’s absolutely no pressure to do anything you don’t want to do. Let yourself explore the sensations – then, see what happens.
Get your rides situated before you go.
If you don’t trust that your friend will actually be the designated driver due to peer pressure, don’t let her add anxiety to your night. Flaky friends can often ruin fetish party experiences for everyone, and it may be the reason why you’re a bit tense. Make sure Lyft or Uber is available in your neighborhood, and download the app before you even leave. Always have a backup plan to travel safely. Drinking and driving is literally one of the worst things you can do, especially in this day and age, so being prepared to get a driver is just the smart choice.
Remember that parties aren’t always what movies make them seem like.
If your idea of a party has been painted by a late ’90s comedy movie, or perhaps one really cringeworthy high school rager, just know that you may be panicking for no reason. Parties normally consist of a medium group who socialize, listen to music, or maybe play a movie. Food is often part of it, as well as drinking. If anything more happens that makes you uncomfortable? Just know that there really is no shame in leaving.